Lynn, 40, was in the luggage to the station at the airport with her mother in law. They have waited patiently for the airline to find their luggage, as her husband around the airport in his car in attempts to transport the woman's house.

After two hours, Lynn decided to take action, face an angry supervisor, indicating the loss of patience and disbelief at the lack of concern on the issue.

You know what? Presto! The bag was found in 10 minutes with a further apology from the supervisor.

Angry confrontation clearly "worked" in the sense of achieving the desired outcome of behavior and no negative consequences or "Costsa" to express anger.

While anger is not appropriate in most cases, there are circumstances where the expression of anger is in fact what to do.

Lesson 1: expression of anger is good if it gets results without costly, emotional, financial, personal or social.

John was a professional lawyer who had been unjustly accused irregularities with their customers. He had submitted a report to the Commission of professional licenses.

John was traumatized and afraid, because that never happened in 25 years of practice as an attorney in family law. After giving in to their feelings for several month (almost to a disability), to consult a defense attorney and fight for their criminal careers.

Once he had spent his suffering, humiliation and self-pity, you can make contact with his anger as indignation "alone. »

That the transition energy and motivated to protect themselves and survive the accusations unfair and untrue against him, threatened his brilliant career.

Lesson # 2 – Anger can be a good thing if it leads us beyond fear and paralysis and catapult us into the appropriate action.

Lesson # 3 – Anger can be a good thing if we move from apathy and inaction of positive and helps us focus on our goals in life more broadly.

Like the mythical bird rising from the ashes of Desert Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) is a phoenix that arose from the tragedy.

Candy Lightner founded MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) in 1980 after the death of her 13-year-old daughter of CARI, Fair Oaks, California, May 3.

Unfortunately, Carl was walking to school when a carnival a drunk driver hit him from behind. The driver had three previous convictions for driving while intoxicated and was released on bail from a hit and run arrest two days earlier.

Currently, MADD is the largest organization of Victims of Crime in the world with more than 3 million members and supporters.

Lesson # 4: Anger is good that make it a positive social good and make improvements in the world.

Shelly had a friend who was consistently late. It was very painful for Stacy, who has never said anything about it. Instead, she started making excuses not to see her friend.

I was about to lose a beautiful friendship. One day, she gathered her courage and decided to tell her friend that the delay was difficult for her, makes her feel insignificant, angry and resentful.

The response of the friend? Shellyi Contrary to the fears, not Bolt's friend! Instead, he decided that appreciates honesty shellyi then apologized and began to arrive on time.

Lesson # 5; appropriately assertive rather than angry celebration often facilitates a closer relationship. It is very difficult for people choose to change their behavior if Dona't knows he has broken with them.

Dr Tony Fiore is a licensed psychologist, marital therapist and certified anger management trainer. He is a Fellow of the American Stress Institute and a Diplomate of National Anger Management Association. He has received advanced training in marital therapy at the Gottman Institute in Seattle,Washington. In addition to his active clinical practice, Dr Tony regularly conducts anger management classes in Southern California, consults and provides trainings to companies for anger and stress management, and trains anger management facilitators. He also publishes a monthly newsletter “Taming The Anger Bee.” With Ari Novick, M. A. he has recently published a new workbook/manual: “Anger Management For The Twenty-First Century – The Eight Tools of Anger Control.” He can be reached at http://www.angercoach.com.

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